Christian Misfits

One of the largest crowds we have in the Church are the misfits. These are the ones who do not fit in with the popular crowd. I am a misfit even amongst the misfits. I wish I were more normal as I love people, and I love to spend time with them. But God has seen to make me as I am, and I am quite sure He knew what He was doing.

Some in the Church seek popularity with the same self-centered motives of the world. Be sure the world is in the church, but the question is how much of the world is in you? I think that the misfits in the church are also the misfits of the world. It is wonderful to not fit into a world in which we do not belong. Don’t worry if you are not popular, so long as you are walking with the Lord.

Be glad when you don’t fit into this world, because you are not supposed to. “For our citizenship is in heaven, from which we also eagerly wait for the Savior, the Lord Jesus Christ” (Philippians 3:20).

God designed me to be a loner. I asked Him one day, “why did you make me like this?” He whispered into my heart, “so I can spend more time alone with you.” “But to You I have cried out, O Lord, and in the morning my prayer comes before You” (Psalm 88:13).

I used to envy the popular and despise my strangeness. Now I feel sorry for the popular and see the blessing in my strangeness. Perhaps you are a misfit, one of those who do not fit in. You are not alone no matter how alone you feel. I want you to know that the Lord can use you just as you are. The popular crowd is small, so there is a great opportunity for you to fellowship with all the misfits around you.

It is the poor in spirit that take hold of the things of heaven. Jesus told us, “Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven” (Matthew 5:3).

Sometimes it is in the rejection of men where we show ourselves right with God. Jesus taught, “If you were of the world, the world would love its own…” (John 15:19).

God uses misfits for His grandest missions. The prophets were always the strange ones. The priests were never meant to fit in. Don’t you get it, being different is better than being the same. God has made you different for a reason. Seek the reason. “I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; marvelous are Your works, and that my soul knows very well” (Psalm 139:14).

Your life matters because God says so. “How precious also are Your thoughts to me, O God! How great is the sum of them! If I should count them, they would be more in number than the sand…” (Psalm 139:17-18).

To get close to God, you must become further from man. “And when He [Jesus] had sent the multitudes away, He went up on the mountain by Himself to pray. Now when evening came, He was alone there” (Matthew 14:23).

Maybe you are one of the popular ones in the Church. We need some to take a higher position that they can lead and inspire those around them. Just keep yourself humble before God, or He will take care of that for you. Be willing to serve the least that God can use you the most.

If you are popular, I want you to know the significant impact you can have on others. Never underestimate the worth in a soul though they sit on the fringes of your ministry. The height of your faith is reflected in how low you would become for others. Humility is the highest order in heaven.

Kingdom success has more to do with motives than accomplishments. “So don’t make judgments about anyone ahead of time—before the Lord returns. For He will bring our darkest secrets to light and will reveal our private motives. Then God will give to each one whatever praise is due” (1 Corinthians 4:5 New Living Translation).

For the misfits, you must connect with other believers. You must beware the pride or the fear that leaves you stranded and vulnerable to the attack from the enemy. We are not created to live alone, and we need each other more than you can realize. Even if it makes you uncomfortable, seek fellowship with other Christians.

Faith is a journey we must never walk alone. “Two are better than one… For if they fall, one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls, for he has no one to help him up” (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10).

It is the Devil that tries to separate you from other believers such that he can destroy you. “And let us consider one another in order to stir up love and good works, not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as is the manner of some, but exhorting one another…” (Hebrews 10:25).

Friend, in however you feel like you are a misfit, know there is a soul near you who feels the very same way. Be a friend to have a friend. Be a blessing that you will be blessed.

Blessings to you,

Paul Balius

All Scripture is quoted from the New King James Version unless otherwise noted. Please use the version you prefer to review the verses shown here. The best version is the one you read. An even better version is the one you live.

14 thoughts on “Christian Misfits

  1. This so blessed my heart, gave me understanding of being a misfit, is a gift and blessing, freeing me to reach out to others as God,s Holy Spirit leads me….what a joy to be absolutely free in how I have been designed by God !

    1. Thank you so much. It truly is a gift from God when we are already in a place of humility because it will be from there that God can use us. Praying into what God is calling you to do.

  2. Thank you for the message. It rings so true with me. Even as a very young child I knew I didn’t really fit in. I used to climb trees, starting at a very young age, and I found Jesus there, even though I had no idea “who” He was I felt His love. In my adult life, coming to know Jesus, I have learned to be around and love people and to also embrace my differences. I am no longer afraid to be a “loner”, this is my most precious time with Yeshua in His word, pray and meditation.

    1. I think it is so wonderful when we can come to realize and accept the way in which God designed us to be. I think when we have grown up, set apart, that God uses that and increases our compassion towards others going through stuff, because we can relate. I pray God would work mightily through your life to be a blessing to many around you.

    1. So true, we can agonize over what people think. And all the while God is just looking at us with such great love and compassion. When we see ourselves as He sees us, we are complete in Him.

  3. Thank you for this!! I’ve spent a lot of time wishing and trying to be something else. I’ve felt that I don’t measure up because I’m more introverted. I’m more of a one on one, I tend to reach out to people that are overlooked.

    1. You’re most welcome! This is one of my favorite blogs because it really speaks to my own life as well. I spent most of my life wishing that I could somehow fit in. But now I am to the point where I am so glad that I do not fit in. Like you, it is a great way to reach others who are in the fringes as well.

  4. Actually. I feel misfit because no one sees me. They don’t even recognize me. I’m just a ghost that trying to talk to them. I feel like I’m a ghost that Im talking to them. When I ever try to talk to them they like don’t see me or what ever. I feel alone. I did my best to be with them but it seems they don’t recognize me as me. Idk what to do anymore I feel pain more than anything.

    1. I am so sorry that you are struggling and pray the Lord would comfort you and guide you in all that you can do. Most often we cannot change how another person behaves but we can look to God to help us better respond to them.

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